One of the greatest gifts God gives us is children. The
Bible teaches, "Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb is his
reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one's
youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They
shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate" (Psa 127:3-5)
With this
great gift comes an awesome responsibility. Christians are commanded to bring
their children
"up in the training and admonition of the Lord" (Eph 6:4). What makes
this job more awesome than most is its serious, far-reaching and often
irreversible consequences. With most responsibilities if one fails there is usually
opportunity to back up and start or try all over again. There is no second chance in raising our children.
If parents fail to properly raise their children, once grown they are likely to be beyond hope. As
the wisdom of Proverbs instructs, "Chasten your son while there is hope, and do not set your
heart on his destruction" (Proverbs 19:18).
The Bible
is full of examples of successful and unsuccessful fathers. But the awful and
far reaching consequences
of a father that failed are no more dramatic than the failure of Jehoshaphat as a father. As
king of Judah, Jehoshaphat ruled during the days of the "Divided
Kingdom." During the twenty-five
years of his reign he sought to worship only Jehovah. He cleaned out the idols
and false places of worship from Judah
and sent men throughout the land to teach his people the Law of the Lord. Because of his faith and effort the
Lord blessed Jehoshaphat and Judah with prosperity, power and peace (2 Chron 17:3-19).
With all of
the blessings the Lord had given him, Jehoshaphat was not content. He sought to
make an alliance
with Ahab,the king of Israel.
Ahab was the wickedest king that ever ruled over either Israel or Judah. He did
"evil in the sight of the Lord, more than all who were before him."
Ahab married the
evil Jezebel of Sidon and built a temple to her idol Baal, which king Ahab worshipped (1 Kings 16:30-33). Jehoshaphat foolishly made a
military alliance with this king by having his son, Jehoram, marry Ahab and
Jezebel's daughter, Athaliah.
All of the
good Jehoshaphat had accomplished during his reign was destroyed by his
singular failure as a father to provide the proper guidance and
influence for his son, he did not recognize the truth, "Evil company
corrupts good morals" (1 Cor 15:33) and invited
evil companionship and wicked
influence into his own family. Jehoshaphat's failure with his son brought
wickedness, misery and death to his
children, grandchildren and even his great grandchildren.
After
Jehoshaphat's death, his son Jehoram took the throne
and murdered his own brothers, the other
sons of Jehoshaphat. Jehoram followed in the path of
the evil Ahab "for he had the daughter of Ahab as a wife; and he did evil in the sight of the Lord" (2 Chron 21:4-6). Jehoram ruled only
eight years yet during that time his
wickedness and foolishness was so great that his enemies killed all of his sons (Jehoshaphat's grandsons) except
one, Ahaziah. When Jehoram died a painful death no one was sorry to see him go (2 Chron
21:18-20).
The wicked influence unleashed by Jehoshaphat lingered on.
When Ahaziah was made king he continued the reign of evil for his
mother, Athaliah the daughter of Ahab,
"counseled him to do wickedly" (2 Chron 22:2-3). Within one
year Ahaziah was killed and his mother, Athaliah, seized power over Judah by murdering all her grandchildren
(Jehoshaphat's great grandchildren). Only one child, Joash, survived the
massacre and was raised to king after seven years of wicked rule by Athaliah (2 Chron
22:10-23:21).
Jehoshaphat was successful in
every area of his life but one. He failed to raise his son "in the way he should go, (that) when he is old he will not
depart from it" (Prov 22:6). This failure overshadowed and ultimately eclipsed all
Jehoshaphat's successes. Three generations were destroyed by this one mistake!!!
What kind of inheritance will you leave to your children?
Money? Property? Stocks and bonds? Your old car? A few antiques
and photographs? Many a parent works all their life to leave a few dollars for their children to
fight over and spend. How pitiful an inheritance this is in
comparison to the father and mother who leave
to their children "the training and admonition of the Lord."
Eric